I shall lead you on and on into whichever way I would have you journey and you need take no anxious thought as to the journey's end.
- Eva Bell Werber, The Voice of the Master

When you are aware that you're on a spiritual journey, that your path on this journey is uniquely yours, you'll be able to recognize when the path is wide and easy to follow or when it is narrow and not so easy. The path behind you was all the experiences that brought you to where you are now. The path that lies before you will be all your experiences that are still to come.

How do you recognize when your spiritual path narrows? It shows up by something wanting to catch your attention. You feel like you've had a disconnect on a project, or you're not sure about something happening at work, or maybe a relationship needs more attention than usual. We all have times when we don't know what to do. A lot of people get confused and jump to worrying because they think something is wrong, or they feel anxiety because they feel out of control. Then there re those who realize something is up, and begin listening more attentively from within.

Have you ever forged a path through a wooded area or up a mountain? Sometimes the path gets so narrow, it's hard to locate. It demands more of your attention than normal. When you come to a place where you think you've lost the path and can't find it, worrying doesn't do anything but make you feel more lost. What I suggest is to stop, center yourself and simply wait. At some point your path will reappear and you'll know where to go. Let me reassure you that there is no worry when your path narrows. A narrowing path is nothing more than a focused opportunity.

What's being called forth in you is to be more focused and single minded. Be brave and travel on!

- Rev. Micheal Torphy

I journey forward on my spiritual path with the utmost confidence that I will known when to move and when to be still, when to act and when to listen.

Wednesday, December 30 2009 Innervisions

Tavis Smiley . Shows . Mary J. Blige . December 21, 2009 PBS:

"Tavis: Why have you been, why are you so hard on yourself? I'm the same way. I've been trying to figure that out for myself, so here I am asking you, like I got a whole lot of nerve, but why are you so hard on yourself?

Blige: Well, I guess for years you just think that if you're not hard on yourself, you're doing something wrong. If you're not - if you're happy for - if you're happy then you're a little weird about being happy. Once you get to that place where you're like, gosh, I'm really happy, something happens where you're like, why?
That's that comfortable place, that dark place that's comfortable, and I'm continuously trying to unravel out of that place because it's easy to just sink back, especially when you think you're being betrayed or betrayal kicks in or someone comes along as a human being and hurts you. It's easy to slip back into that place of man, whatever. So that's basically it, but for the most part I'm doing well. I've made progress, but I have to learn how to get up quicker. I've learned how to get up quicker than I used to. I used to lay there for months and years. But now I'm just laying there for a week (laughter) when there's no more time.

Tavis: We've got to cut this down to days now, huh?

Blige: Right, I got to cut this down to days and maybe hours now, because it's getting harder to lay there. Everything around you is just going and going and going and people are passing you by, and you're down there like (makes noise). So it is - yeah."


There is a lot of good stuff from this transcript, check it out! Mary has some good things to say!

Tavis Smiley . Shows . Mary J. Blige . December 21, 2009 PBS:

"Blige: I really couldn't. When I look at myself it's really hard not to see all the work that still needs to be done. I don't pick myself to pieces, but I definitely see all the things that still need work. That's the significance behind the title. 'Stronger with Each Tear,' because even now the trials that come are the trials that come to show you that you haven't learned a certain lesson - the lesson of forgiveness, the lesson of even more self-love. In those trials is where we cry the most and we hurt the most because we feel like we've been knocked off our square, and when we come out, we come out stronger. At least I do. But you have to learn the lesson in order to come out stronger. For a woman like me, who's constantly out there trying to continue to better myself and progress in a spiritual sense to have a better life, it's hard. It's really hard. It's hard because I'm hard on myself, but what I've learned is not to be so hard on myself."

"Q: I want a man with a career who's financially stable, goal-oriented and churchgoing. And I don't want someone who has small children, baby mama drama or a drug habit. Are those unrealistic standards? Because I'm having a hard time finding this guy.

A: Girl, you just described what every single woman (plus one in ten dudes) is looking for. Your standards are not so far-fetched if you're willing to date young. Top universities crank out these guys every year. But also take a look at Mr. Almost Perfect. Maybe he's financiallly solid, but his baby mama drama is only okay for now beacuse she hasn't been released from prison yet. All jokes aside; if he's honest, compassionate and drug-free, don't overlook him. Loving each other's imperfections is what makes a relationship special. Plus, Mr. Almost Perfect may be more down-to-earth with all those chinks in his armor - and his love will be just as good. "

...Interesting.

from Essence November 2009 Issue. Finesse Relationship Column.

"On the twentieth anniversary of my engagement I did a self-assessment, and I've come to a realization: My trepidation has saved me from failing at marriage, but it has also stopped me from being successful at it. Just because I fear matrimony doesn't mean my fears have to come true. I've decided to fight for the opportunity to love someone. This decision didn't come about because tying the knot is what I'm supposed to do, or because I'm lonely. (I am.) But I know now that the people who enjoy long, loving unions can't tell the future any better than couples whose relationships have failed. Like a wiser, older married man told me, "Marriage is a leap of faith. All of life is."



I've decided I will no longer look at marriage with fear but with hope. I can never plan to live happily ever after if I am too afraid to walk down the aisle."



- RM Johnson, author of Why Men Fear Marriage; excerpt from Essence Magazine article The Marrying Kind November 2009



ps. I like this a lot because I feel like it can be applied to many things in life, not just marriage. But, it really hits home for that too.

“There is nothing so pitiful as a young cynic because he has gone from knowing nothing to believing nothing.”
- Maya Angelou

Let's see if we can find your boobs, they're in there somewhere!...It's like an easter egg hunt.

- Betty White

It's the Holidays!

A nice little christmas music playlist on YouTube! featuring some of my fave's by Mariah and Boyz II Men, etc.

Listen here!

empty words are better left unspoken

I have plenty of it.....so it's nothin for me to share. Priceless. That's why it's free.

here's the thing. you a have a freak flag, you just dont fly it.

You were shoveling snow. You were just a little girl in a flannel night gown and you were shoveling snow in the driveway in front of our house. And Iwas the snow, everywhere it landed, everything it covered, and you scooped me up. With a big red shovel, you scooped me up.

Why do I stand here with my hands in my metaphorical pockets chained to my spot of fear?

I've heard her called a quitter for leaving, an aimless wanderer. But not all who wander are aimless, especially not those who seek truth beyond tradition, beyond definition, beyond the image.

Somedays your mother and me loved each other. Other days we had to work at it. You never see the hard days in the photo album, but those are the ones that get you from one happy snapshot to the next. Im sorry your honeymoon sucked, but that's what you got dealt. Now you gotta work through it.

underneath anger is hurt and underneath hurt is love

romance is dead
is what they said while sitting around cheating at pool
in the very last frame of his 9 ball game
the cat who had the date on the top of the empire state is the one who got hustled like a fool

facebook theory

It's not that Facebook ruins relationships. Its that people don't know how to use it. It gives access to more history than people have previously ever had access to. Merely thinking of an old lover has very different implications than being able to find them and talk to them. If you go ahead, dig up that past and revisit it and it blows up in your face, you should just agree to accept it and work from there. Before you go peepin, remember all the times, not just the good times. When you're searching for something, you will find a way to find what you're looking for. And if you're running onto the page of your old lover to escape a current situation or fall back into the bliss that used to be, you probably wont be receptive to the whole truth of the situation. After all, they said curiosity killed the cat, and hindsight is always 20/20.....

The best thing about getting lost is what you find along the way. Wherever I go, I'm free.



(some car commerical)

move girl move

today somebody told me to enjoy the confusion and uncertainty of life. It might be the hardest thing ever. I feel out of control with no place to go. I am questioning everything. I need to get out of my head and carpe diem! I'm clearly in my own way.