"Q: I want a man with a career who's financially stable, goal-oriented and churchgoing. And I don't want someone who has small children, baby mama drama or a drug habit. Are those unrealistic standards? Because I'm having a hard time finding this guy.

A: Girl, you just described what every single woman (plus one in ten dudes) is looking for. Your standards are not so far-fetched if you're willing to date young. Top universities crank out these guys every year. But also take a look at Mr. Almost Perfect. Maybe he's financiallly solid, but his baby mama drama is only okay for now beacuse she hasn't been released from prison yet. All jokes aside; if he's honest, compassionate and drug-free, don't overlook him. Loving each other's imperfections is what makes a relationship special. Plus, Mr. Almost Perfect may be more down-to-earth with all those chinks in his armor - and his love will be just as good. "

...Interesting.

from Essence November 2009 Issue. Finesse Relationship Column.